I think I might becoming like my mother…

In a workshop I attended last week, each person was asked to write three things about themself, one of which was suppose to be a lie. My list was as below:

1. I have a degree in Economics

2. I have 6 sisters and 2 brothers

3. I am a Sunday school teacher

Can you guess which of the above is not true about me? The workshop participants all got it wrong. Everyone assumed 2 was the lie. Indeed I have 6 sisters and 2 brothers all from the same mother and father( Hallelujah praise God).

Now that I am a mother myself, to three children aged between three 3 and 6, I wonder how my mother kept her sanity. Every single day I remind myself that if my mother could manage, surely I can too.

I have a work trip out of the country this mother’s day. After reading my children their bedtime story I asked them to each pray and as my son prayed, I found myself crying. He prayed that I would travel well and come back home safely and that I would not forget to buy the things he wants me to bring. As I was wiping my tears, I realised I might becoming like my mother in many ways than one. Here is my list of things I unintentionally find myself doing that my mother used to do.

1. I have become really sensitive since I became a mum. Last night’s praying incident being an example. I cry when my children impress me and I cry when I watch certain movies. My mum used to cry when watching movies on TV or if she listened to certain songs.

2. I can now give “the eye” and my children completely get it. Infact they completely get it that just “the eye” is enough to cause tears. This is such a victory for me. I remember a few years back when our first daughter was about three years old. I tried to give her “the eye” and she said “mummy why are you looking at me like that?”

3. I have three kids and I find myself going through all their names just to call one of them. My mum used to do that too.

4. I never used to understand why my mum would call me from outside where I was playing into the kitchen to pass her the salt which was so close to her she could have taken it herself. Well, I find myself doing similar things. Like calling my daughter from outside where she is playing so she can get me some water to drink. I guess it’s a mummy thing 🙈🙈🙈

5. I find myself unintentionally embarrassing my children just like my mum used to. Like the day she recited her words perfectly and me being the African mum “ululated” so everyone would know she was my child..😂😂. Of course she was not impressed and when I was showing her the video later, she told me not to it again. I still do it… oops!

And you… do you find yourself becoming like your mother?

Have a great Mother’s Day with your loved ones.


Published by Mum in Stilettos

I started blogging when i became a mother. I was struggling to manage the demands of being a working mom and being present for my baby's key development milestones. Initially this was a rant about my experiences in the office and at home. Over the years it has evolved into an online support community for mothers who are growing their families as they grow their careers. I am a wife and mum to 3 amazing children. The girl who introduced me the "mother" title is 8 years ol and our twins are five years, 6 months. During the day I am have a job i love as marketer for a multinational FMCG company. When i get home, I have another equally rewarding job called being a mother. When everyone is tucked in bed, I find time to blog about my journey as a mum in stilettos and build this community for us working moms so we can thrive at home and at work.

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